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[quote=Anonymous]I think you have a daughter who is very sensitive and maybe feeling anxious. She has 2 younger siblings including a baby. She is competing with her brother (and the baby) for your attention. She feels like her position in the family has changed since the baby was born.

Just guesses, of course, but she sounds a lot like my daughter, who is 5 and will cry/get upset about things similar to this also. It upset me for a long time (sometimes still does) because I felt like my daughter was getting upset about such minor things but I've found if I stay calm and rational and give her lots of affection and attention (not giving in to her but listening to her and talking through things w/ her), she will calm down much faster than if I express any frustration or react by sending her to her room or some other consequence like that that she sees as a punishment. She's not exactly misbehaving she is just acting in a way that shows she's feeling insecure about a situation and needs help understanding how to work through it.

Also make sure she's sleeping enough! My daughter acts like this way more when she's tired or overstimulated/overwhelmed (no surprise here). We have cracked down on bedtime lately to make sure she's always in the bed w/ lights out by 8 at the latest. And we give her other times to rest during the day when we can. It's hard when she's in school of course but when we're home, we make sure she has periods of time where she gets to be one on one w/ a parent or by herself doing something quiet like reading a book or doing a puzzle. Lots of playtime w/ other kids and lots of activities wears her out and leads to more emotional outbursts. [/quote]

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