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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There should be balance in all things.  There is no need to force your kid further and further above grade level, but that's not the only type of academic enrichment you can pursue.  Find your kid's interests and work from there.

But if you signal to your kid that you don't value/care about education by not engaging with them or their teachers, he isn't likely not to do so either.  [b]When his early learning advantages start evening out, he may lack the interest, skills and work ethic to keep up in the future.  Being motivated by perfectionism and competing with others isn't necessarily sustainable or healthy for self-esteem in the long run.[/b][/quote]

op here. Then what should I do instead? He thinks that he is smart, and he is motivated by perfectionism and competing with others now. He likes praises and positive encouragement. He sometimes compete with DH at adult level when it comes to knowledge, and of course he lost and cried.

You won't believe me, he was interested in playing sudoku and memorizing map for a few months when he was 5. It was virtual school, so he has nothing better to do and we were busy working. I think other peers at his current grade level is not that challenging enough for him to try or work harder.[/quote]
I believe you, I have a kid who enjoys math a ton and is doing math competitions for fun.

You need to focus on his behavior. If he is a handful now and you don't do anything to improve his behavior he is going to struggle in school. And if he is perfectionist who gets upset at being wrong then you need to find a way to help him get a handle on that. It is not healthy for him in school because there will be material he does not get 100% correct and there are going to be people smarter then him. What have the Teachers said about his behavior? What conversations have you had about correcting his behavior?

There are ways to supplement that are fun and not necessarily moving him ahead. Play math games, let him do sudoku, find things that engage him. But you should be reading to him or letting him listen to audio books. [/quote]

Thank you PP. He has asked me a few times to sign him up for beast academy and let him play prodigy games. Should I enroll him and let him do that? I think he is interested in doing national math competition, but I am not sure if I want him to go down that route. What is the pro and con? I would rather him kicking some ball and sweating outdoor and drilling on math questions at home, and it seems unhealthy and geeky.

His reading and comprehension is currently above 2 grade level. English is not my first language & I am not good at reading aloud, really dry/too fast and some wrong pronunciation.  We don't own any audio books, and where can I get those or borrow those? He is still working on his writing, spelling and some grammar rules.

His teacher mention that he sometimes talks and fools around in the class, and he sometimes likes to challenge/test teacher boundaries. He is overall a happy and friendly child. However, he has some arrogant attitude that "it is easy" " I knew it" at classroom when teachers are teaching in the class. Teachers know that he is smart and he knew the materials, so they try their best to ignore him when he fools around and attention seeking as long as he sits in his own seat even wiggling. There are some kids need to pay attention to learn the material and curriculum. Last year, he was the kind of kid that knew how to do fraction/multiplication/division when some kids in his class were learning single digit addition/subtraction.

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haha whaaat

your kid wants to do math competitions but you don't want him to be a geek, so you'd rather he play soccer?[/quote]

op here. I came from a culture that I don't really have childhood, and it's always studying and preparing for quizzes/exams/homework and go between private tutors/centers since I was little. There were minimal play time and sports because if I don't do well in my class ranking, I would have been got kicked out from my current school or current school system under age 18. We do national exam and many kids/parents cry at the exam result announcement date because we are competing within & outside of school. I admit I am not as smart as my son, but I did okay on academic because I studied hard every day. I am quite good at math and art.

That is why I would rather my son to kick ball and play hard outdoor. Sweating and getting a good tan is healthy & fun. I think that's what childhood is, enjoys it when he can at this young age. DH does not understand me, and he says that why all people that he knows coming from my country stresses on academic, and unlike me, trying to push sports and art/music that he is not really interested much & not good at.

My boy is getting an advantage and doing great now, that is why do I don't understand why I have to stress and spend too much time/money/effort on his academic. I don't think academic means everything. I do agree that his behavior/attitude/study habit needs to be worked on.[/quote]

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