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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He sounds like he is more interested  in what you can do for him and his mood than he is interested in your feelings and wellbeing. Like oh, how inconvenient  of you to be sad, I just want to have good vibes so please get help so *I* can feel better. So I would probably dump him, unless he is helping you find a therapist and get some time alone to rejuvenate or things like that.

Mental health issues just suck. I have been there and it is so crappy and I’m so sorry you are dealing with this. I don’t know what your answer is but please just hang in there. [/quote]

He actually is helping me find a therapist, sort of. I am resistant to individual therapy bc it hasn't worked great before and the last time led to me marrying my physically and verbally abusive ex-husband. BF wants me to do something, and is urging me to join the same type of 12-step-based group therapy he is doing. Because of my abusive marriage, he has made me being in therapy a condition of the relationship continuing. He has the zeal of a person in recovery (he is an adult child of an alcoholic, not actually an addict; rather, uses the philosophy. I am neither.).[/quote]

Never mind then, I think he really just wants to see you happy and wishes you would take better care of yourself.

But it still strikes me as a little unfeeling. You probably wish that too, right? We are all doing our best, it’s not like we are failing ourselves intentionally. I know the zeal you’re talking about. He might need somebody who has the same zeal that he does and it’s totally okay if you can’t be that person. I wonder if you were to stay with him, you’d feel constantly judged for not trying hard enough. [/quote]

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