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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Look no matter how hard we try...everyone yells or is guilty of yelling before--so don't beat yourself up.  You are a good parent for noticing this about yourself and trying to think of ways to control this behavior instead of letting it continue.

My mom is still a yeller and I'm 30 with 2 kids!

When I feel like I about to lose it, I imagine them as babies...and who would ever yell at a baby?  I do the same thing with crazy people...works like a charm.

Also, rather then yelling I whisper...it forces our son to stop what he is doing and focus on what I'm saying.  Works best if you lean in and get down to their level.[/quote]

No, not everyone yells. I don't yell at my kids ever. Like other PPs, my memories of my mother yelling are some of the strongest of my childhood. My mom didn't even yell often but when she did it felt awful. I can still even remember some of the exact words she yelled at me that made me feel inadequate and in some ways as though she 'hated' me. I have a great relationship with my mother now but that has taken a lot of work and didn't really come to be until my mid-twenties.

I don't yell at anyone really so not yelling at my kids isn't that hard. If someone at work is incredibly frustrating and irritating I deal with it without yelling and same with my kids. I do glare at them at times to show my disapproval...that may be damaging too who knows! Often I walk away, I give them very clear options, alternatives and consequences for them to choose between. We try to live a life that is as free of stress (not rushed or hectic) as possible and I think that helps. [/quote]

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