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[quote=Anonymous]I am so grateful for your post, OP.  I disagree with those that think women are aware of the risks of waiting. if that were true, why I am surrounded by women who have a partner for YEARS before trying to start a family and think that any time before 40 will be no problem and after is still possible.  What frustrates me is that only that they think it is possible bc they will be fertile and have viable eggs, but that they also discount miscarriages.  Let's be honest, ladies.  Out of five friends, how many had two children with no challenges?  I am the one in five who got lucky in my circle: healthy children born when I was 34 and 36.  But we were married for three years and started trying when I was 33 on the basis that we had to factor in challenges conceiving, miscarriages and the fact we wanted to conceive our first before I was 35 in part due to risks that increase related to the health of the baby.  Forget the challenges of concieving, why would you wait given the higher risks associated with having a child both to the mother and the baby?

Thank you, OP.  This is a rant I partake in regularly, and I appreciate the opportunity to vent.  The truth is that conception is a club and a secret one at that.  Women do not share the high rates of miscarriage or friends who can't conceive.  I think women are not honest with themselves about how much they want a family.  if one really wanted one, and they had a life partner before 35, why would you wait?  If you have a career such as OP, I appreciate the challenges, but the window to have kids is small while the window to have a career is decades![/quote]

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