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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was at the gym and saw an article in COSMO of all places about..."what you need to know about your decade of having babies..." or something like that.  I opened it up, not expecting much.  And actually, it was pretty good advice, along the lines of, "Think about having kids between the ages of 25 and 35.  Any earlier than that and you're not grown up enough.  Wait until after 35, and you may have problems... and even though many women do become pregnant, easily, between 35 and 39, many do not.  So don't take your chances."

But here's the problem...  If I had read that when I was younger, I may have discounted it and thought... I am perfectly, robustly healthy.  Of course I can have kids well into my 40's!  I am a stud!   Those stats don't apply to a healthy, organic-eating, yoga-practicing chick like me who recycles!!

Alas, they do.  That's the challenge... getting women to believe that the stats can apply to them, and getting their partners educated about this issue, too.  That you may be lucky and get pregnant in two months when you are 43, but that there's no predicting if that will be what happens to you.  [/quote]

This was me, I assumed I'd beat the odds because I'm healthy and also just because I assumed it's the one thing that would come easily.

Not so, I'm going into my second IVF.

I am a single mom, I would tell young women based on my experience, if you know that you would do it without a mate, start at 35.  If you know you would NOT do it without a mate, then it will have to wait for the mate, but be aware of the time and feel free to change your mind/start trying as soon as possible after you meet him, etc.

Infertility has been more heartbreaking than anything I've ever experienced, and kicking myself for waiting (though it was for lack of a mate) has made it all the more painful.[/quote]

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