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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hmmmm.  I think there's a fine line here.  Yes, you want to promote your child's right to control his/her own body and to be able to say "no" to unwanted contact.  But is kissing grandparents really an issue of "controlling one's own body"?  I'm not so sure.  These are grandparents, not the school janitor, for god's sake.

I think it's perfectly appropriate to say to a child "You need to kiss gpa/gma hello and goodbye.  [b]It will hurt their feelings if you don't accept their kiss.[/b]"

[b]Kissing hello and goodbye is etiquette for a child[/b].  [/quote]

I think this is a weird precedent to set. I think controlling your own body, trusting your own instincts, and expressing sincere affection is more important. To each her/his own.

OP, my in-laws used to try to push my nephews to hug and kiss me when they rarely saw me. I told my MIL and FIL not to tell the boys that they had to give me affection, and that I was willing to wait for them to approach me on their own. Now, that we've gotten to know each other, they hang all over me, willingly. Some older adults just don't get it, but that doesn't mean they shouldn't try. [/quote]

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