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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I really hope this is troll post.  But if not:

There have been other threads along these lines.  It's illogical that people think having almost perfect grades and test scores and great ECs entitles kids to admissions at "top/elite" schools.  As others have repeatedly pointed out, some 90-95% of those who apply to those schools get rejected and most of those kids worked their butts off.  All that hard work only gets kids a lottery ticket.  You cannot be why most kids don't win the lottery.  It's a shame but it really should serve as a cautionary tale to kids about whether they want to make big sacrifices for such a small chance of getting in.  For some kids, it's totally worth it and they would work that hard anyway.  For others, they feel like that stress was all for nothing even though they likely got accepted by other VERY good colleges.  This obsession with getting into a T20 or whatever is so unhealthy.  It largely will lead to disappointment.  And I graduated from those exalted schools -- undergrad and grad.  Times have changed.  It's not worth it at this point, people.  Seriously.  Especially for undergrad.  You're only young once.  Don't waste HS on this rat race.  Admittedly, back in my day it wasn't this insane of a rat race.  I am confident that my life would not have been vastly different had I gone to less elite schools.  My colleagues at my intellectually prestigious office went to a huge variety of undergrad and grad schools.  OP, you can't think of this as what went "wrong" -- statistically, the odds are not in anyone's favor for things to go "right."  I hope you're not communicating this mentality to your kid, OP.  It's not doing anyone any good.[/quote]

This! 
I have a high school freshman. I’m telling her to do her best and challenge herself, but I’m not going to panic if she gets a lower grade or if she doesn’t take an extra AP. I know she’ll get college acceptances because she isn’t focusing exclusively on top schools. I want her to enjoy life, not rat-race herself to an early grave. I work with people from many types of colleges, including Ivy schools. We all have the same title and salary scale now. [/quote]

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