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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ugh, I am feeling this so much right now. A person I have never considered more than a casual acquaintance recently decided to unfollow me on social media. Which is fine! This was not a friend and this change will impact me in no way. But I realized it by accident (was trying to remember the name of their employer to answer a question for someone else, and when I navigated to their profile saw that we were no longer connected) and now it's just haunting me. Like I need to know why they would do this, and if there was something I did or said that could have prevented it. I hate feeling like this. And again, this is over a casual acquaintance I've spoken to maybe 6 times in my life and who I almost never think about unless I happen to run into her or someone else mentions her. So imagine how I respond when an actual friend or family member expresses displeasure with me.

I really wish I could let stuff like this roll off my back. I'm in my 40s. I'm not going to go cry about it or do anything about it, but it's crazy to me that it's now been on my mind for hours. I wish I could just find if funny or genuinely not care.[/quote]

To both OP and PP, I don't have any solutions but I just want to say I completely relate. I have done the same thing with social media - wondered if I did something, wondered if I was just intrinsically so annoying that they felt the need to unfollow, wondered how I could be more likeable, wondered what is wrong with me. It eats away at me. And it will be some random person I am not close with! The only thing that has helped is being really honest with my closest friends about my own needs and feelings, and also that my DH is so incredibly consistent and vocal in his love/support for me. But even then it still weighs on me quite heavily.[/quote]

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