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[quote=Anonymous]Between the two posts, it really unclear to me (and perhaps to you) what your biggest issue is--is it that you think your kid needs preschool more than mommy and me? is is that she needs to earn more money (you say no) or is it that between your two jobs you dont spend anytime together as a family? The latter argument would, for me, be the one that swings it, but I dont really hear you articulating it.  I have to say, though, that when we had a baby and toddler, it was exhausting, so I would not be excited about a spouse that chose a weekend job, but your wife seems to enjoy being a mostly sahm, you probably dont enjoy the weekends half solo with the kids.

I think you should do some counseling together to learn to see each others point of views, come to working compromise, but also to discuss the future. eg what is the plan with first kid is in fulltime K? second kid?

without getting into specifics /counseling, I would suggest the following as a compromise.

1) 2 or 3 day a week full day (9-3 pm?) preschool or daycare for the children. Your wife tries to pick up one of the weekend shifts (friday night, or sat day) to move during the week. You hire a housekeeper. This to me sort of solves a few issues. She gets her housekeeper. Kids get some structured preschool. Your wife gets to work at a job she enjoys.

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