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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are blaming yourself for the wrong reasons. You think the problem is that you are unable to do enough preparation such that you can meet all of their demands and they’ll never have any inclination to whine.

You’re doing them a disservice because you have been unwilling to hold them responsible for behaving and communicating respectfully and learning patience.[/quote]

seriously give me the tips on doing that.  i fully agree i have the prep / logistics part solved - i need to change the dynamics so they wait patiently, don't expect me to sit down for 1:1 book reading etc[/quote]

NP here, mom of several (now big) kids. So one thing I think would help a lot is a picture schedule for the kids. You can google those and get templates or printed up inexpensively. Teach them to look at the pictures so, for example, if dc wants you to read a book after dressing, he can look at the schedule and see that breakfast is next on the schedule (or whatever your plan is). This way, you're not saying 'no' to reading just to be mean mommy (I know you're not mean!) but 'the schedule says'..

They also need to learn to speak nicely for their requests. If dc yells that you forgot milk, ignore until he asks nicely (but do explain to him ahead of time that he needs to speak nicely). Same for cream cheese kid. I'd also teach them to 'help' with breakfast, example one kid puts out plates and cup, one kids does napkins, while you cook and serve food.

I'm not totally against screens either and while mine were  older before screens were so common-I did allow an episode of Blues Clues if we were all dressed and fed, and fed baby during that time![/quote]

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