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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My advice would be to do your job and not talk about your personal life. In fact, that's the advice for ALL teachers. I'm not sure why my kid's gay language teacher insists on saying things like, "That was a gay thing to say." Sexuality has no place in the classroom because it is irrelevant to the task at hand. Doubtful you will be accused of grooming anyone if you keep your personal life private. Again, that goes for all teachers, not just gay ones.[/quote]

So, no teachers should ever mention their partners/spouses?[/quote]

I cannot remember a time when a teacher mentioned or needed to mention their spouse. Good try on trying to push your agenda. [/quote]

Are you kidding? Teachers reference their spouses ALL THE TIME. It’s totally normal, as it should be. THey are humans.[/quote]

I can’t think of a single time any of my teachers or professors mentioned a spouse. My husband recalls this was very rare in his case.  In any event, mentioning a spouse is fine. Still, teachers should keep their personal lives personal. That will limit any risk. Any male teacher needs to be especially careful. My husband taught for years and worked never to be alone with a student. He also had no cause to mention his personal life. If you truly want suggestions, these will help. [/quote]

Sounds like our experiences were pretty different. I knew, generally, the marital status (and thus sexuality) of most of my teachers, at least in high school, based on passing things they said in class. It wasn’t a topic of deep discussion, and they weren’t sharing deep personal stories. They were just people living in the world, telling anecdotes to illustrate a point in class or even just making small talk.

The point is, they weren’t worried that referencing their spouse was going to get them accused of grooming children. That’s what OP and other teachers in some parts of the country are facing right now. And the idea that LGBTQ teachers will be fine and free of this sort of harassment and persecution if they just “keep their personal lives private” is absolute bad-faith BS.[/quote]

NP and this was my experience too. I knew when teachers got engaged (they didn’t discuss wedding plans, but a woman teacher who started wearing an engagement ring got asked questions), when they were expecting babies - men would be excited and women would be pregnant - I met several teachers new babies adopted and bio.

It’s not realistic to expect teachers to say nothing personal ever. Teachers use personal anecdotes to connect to students, and when it’s done appropriately it’s helpful not harmful.

I know that my son had a gay math teacher one year, and this man could not have hidden his sexuality if he tried. He is beloved by the school community (he ran a “math club” after school and I’ve never seen a more popular after school club), and the kids know he is married, but I don’t think they’ve met his husband. [/quote]

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