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[quote=Anonymous]OP, as a fellow parent of twins, sending lots of empathy your way. The other thing you write that jumped out at me is that your husband comes home from work travel and TAKES A NAP.

For some reason, he is not taking your exhaustion seriously. So you need to make him feel it. He needs to know that you are at your breaking point, in whatever way you can communicate that. My guess is that he literally has not done enough solo kid care to have any idea what you are juggling.

To the extent that it is possible (given age of the babies, etc), check out of kid care and household stuff every minute he is home. When he arrives home from a trip, LEAVE. Go to a hotel, go to a friend's house, get yourself a break. For a day or two. Every time.

Divide up household tasks between yourselves so that it feels fair to you, and he needs to find time to get them done (doing household work from 7:30-10pm while you have a glass of wine, bath, and go to bed early would be a good start).

Him failing to follow through on this stuff would be a reason for escalation for me. Potential future payout or not, you are drowning now.[/quote]

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