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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you tell him all of this? Does he understand the discrepancy?[/quote]

Yes. He just says he gets too tired. But I’m tired, too. [/quote]

NP. What is your reaction to this? If my DH did this to me, I would yell at him - like real yelling. I would go on a tirade about how I’m tired too and he is being lazy, and I would probably start crying legitimate tears in there. I’m not saying this is the right way to do things, but it gets his attention….[/quote]

OP. Lol. My usual reaction is to eventually get fed up and overwhelmed and explode and cry. He pulls it together for a few days after that but it doesn’t last. [/quote]

Sometimes men have such low emotional perception that making a big deal is the only way to get through to them.  Especially when it's something they don't want to hear.  I think you don't have to yell, but you do have to be crystal clear and repeat 100 times, and hold him to it every single time.  Tolerate no slacking.  If his job is to make dinner on Fridays, do not make it for him.  Let him suffer.  When he complains, calmly repeat that this is the agreement you and he made and you expect him to do it.  If he says he is tired say that you are also tired but this is more important.  If he turns on the TV turn it off or stand in front of it.  Do not give in.  Otherwise he will get more and more lazy and entitled.  Your problem is that you keep giving in.  Men don't think something's a big deal if you say it's a big deal.  They only think it's a big deal if your actions show them.[/quote]

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