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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m a White sahm and curious why it’s so rare in the Indian community. If your DH makes enough as a ‘physician/banker/attorney’ why not sahm for a few years at least? I don’t get the shame in it.[/quote]

I'm Eastern European and it's taboo for us too.  It's a sign of being uneducated or poorly educated (low ranked college or only college). My mom has a PhD in a hard science and believes that SAH is akin to dementia,  as the brain drops its plasticity by not being challenged enough. We're also used to hiring a lot of help and there is no shame in outsourcing any menial tasks. I have friends from high school who have never changed a diaper or cooked a meal and our kids are college aged.  [/quote]

Indian-American here (from one of the Southern states) and I agree with this, at least the first part about SAHMs being viewed as poorly educated or lazy/unambitious.

It’s kind of sad, because unless you have plenty of help (especially family help), the children may suffer from lack of parental time, if both parents are running the rat race. I know I personally would seriously consider SAH if my parents weren’t so involved and supportive. So my advice to OP is, tell your in-laws to go F themselves unless they can provide enough support for you to work.[/quote]

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