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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Curious how do most Indian Americans dual high power couples do it? I’m in medicine and know tons of dual physicians Indian Americans in tough subspecialties with multiple kids and always wondered how it works. How would your in laws ideally want you to set up your life? [/quote]

I dont even have kids but I think it may be possible with the kind of joint living with in-laws or parents???[/quote]

The Indian American dual physicians that I know don’t do joint living. They do get babysitting help from their parents but mostly they just outsource everything. Nannies/au pairs, house keepers, grocery delivery/ dinner out/ home made food ordered by aunties, etc.[/quote]

That sounds exhausting. My husband has a pretty chill job and even I’m ready to SAHM despite my medical training. It all feels too much sometimes.[/quote]
Indian-American here who outsources a lot. I think that many of us have a different relationship to hiring help, since it's more common in India. So even though my parents couldn't afford as much help as they could have had in India, it's still just not as weird to pay someone to clean your house etc. DH is white, and it's taken him a little while to be as comfortable hiring help...though at some point he just realized that he'd be miserable (cuz I would be) if I SAH, and our lives would be miserable if we tried to do our jobs and also everything at home. We don't live near our parents nor are we part of a large Indian community, so we just pay a full time nanny/household manager even though both kids are in ES.

I'd also guess that you'll find that even with the dual power couples, there's still a disparity where one is, say, a surgeon with very long hours and the other is an opthalmologist who has much more flexible hours. DH and I aren't in medicine, but we have a similar balance.[/quote]

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