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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hi, I am looking for tips, advice from people who have dealt with with a spouse who is just not "with it."  DH have been together for 5 years. Over time, I have realized he is just not that smart and it is extremely frustrating and I don't know how to deal.  One of the primary issues we have is his lack of listening comprehension.  For example, unless l explain something to him in a very detailed way and several times, he will either think I never told him about something or remember the conversation wrongly.  He will then blame me for not sharing things with him and being a poor communicator.  It's extremely frustrating because I feel like I have to spell things out and communicate like I'm speaking to a child just to get him to remember anything.  This also happens with other people.  I often have to be the one to call if he needs to speak to a customer service rep because he gets confused and just doesn't want to deal with it.  I also am responsible for keeping up and paying all bills, keeping appointments, etc. because he doesn't want to deal with it.  Resolving any issues is also extremely difficult because he cannot argue linearly, so if I make a point while having a discussion he will answer with something that is completely unrelated and not responsive to the point I was trying to make.  He then gets mad at me for actually brining the argument back to the point at hand.  He also holds views that I find very difficult to understand or respect (e.g., COVID beliefs not at all based on science, belief in conspiracy theories, increasingly alt-right views, disparate views on discipling our kids).  I am at a loss at what do.  Over time, he has become increasingly angry and I think resentful of me because I don't trust his judgement or value his opinion on things.  And I feel the same way.  I find myself losing respect for him and just not really understanding how he made it to his late-30s not understanding/knowing things that to me are basic.  Any advice from people who have been there?  I just really don't know how to move forward. [/quote]Advice:Be glad he's male.  In this area, [b]a white male US Citizen can earn big bucks[/b] with a clearance and not too intellectual/skilled and just watch cat videos at work.  I'd have him do this and get a manny, because you have to ask if your kids would be off with him alone 50% of the time if you divorce.  [/quote]

modern day racism.[/quote]Sadly written from a factual witnessing of discrimination.  [/quote]

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