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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]17 year old son has positive traits but dear lord he is lazy!! School does great but at home, useless!  We had to go tour nursing homes for my father who fell so it’s not fun day for my husband and I either. But left son /daughter at home. First daughter goes to mall across street and then figures out friends not leaving in time for her to get home for ride to school project. So we called son and asked him to quickly plz get her. 10 minutes round trip. He argues. But agrees. He has tutor in afternoon but basically home solo for 4 hours before that. 
  Then we get home snd the candles in kitchen still burning- he left gas fireplace he turned on on- socks and shoes strung on kitchen floor and dog got his socks- left his granola bar wrapper on living room table- all lights on and garage door open. 
  This is normal. What the heck can we do to change the behavior?
  I am nagging and on him all the time- but how can we teach him responsibility and basic clean up. [/quote]

Why  is it his job to drive his sister who failed to plan properly?

YOu should have enforced him cleaning up after himself when he was 8, not 18.  [/quote]

+1[/quote] I agree with the 2nd sentence, but not the first.  It’s not his “job” but if I as a parent tell you to go pick up your sibling you do it, point blank.  And I’m assuming kid is driving a car mom and dad pay for. [/quote]

And I’m assuming the youngest will have the same privilege, but won’t be forced to pick up someone else’s kid.[/quote]

So what?  I had to drive my younger sibling around throughout high school and of course he didn't have to do it when he was the same age.  But that also meant he was the only child at home to do all the chores and other things that used to be split between the two of us.  There's a big difference between expecting too much out of an older sibling and just expecting that everyone in the household contributes to the smooth running of the household.[/quote]

They should contribute to what they use. Younger siblings use the house, older siblings are not allowed to use the younger ones.[/quote]

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