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[quote=Anonymous]Nobody has the right to withhold information like this from their child!!  Wouldn't you want to know who you are and where you came from?  Not discounting how difficult a conversation...ongoing conversation...and reality this can be for a DE or DS child and their family, but as the parent, I don't see how anyone could believe they have the right to keep fundamental information about their child's identity from them.  Sorry, the ramifications of telling may not be easy but the alternative means living a lie - a lie that may be discovered when DC is older with devastating ramifications for DC and the family.  I have lived it.  I mean this in the most gentle way, but do often wonder if when parents make the decision to keep this information about their child's identity whether they are really trying to protect their child or whether they are really protecting themselves and perhaps have not been able to really accept the decisions they made to use DE or DS so it is jut easier to pretend it didn't happen.  PP is right, there are so many studies - you can find them on the Internet - showing that children conceived with donor sperm or egg are not negatively affected if they grow up in a loving, supportive environment where discussion about their origins is not taboo, hidden or somehow discouraged.[/quote]

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