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I don't have the best marriage, but my 60-year old husband is a stoic optimist, and I do try to emulate his attitude vis-a-vis waiting for potentially distressing news, health-related or not. He waits, and usually expects a good outcome, and even if he thinks it will be bad news, somehow it doesn't distress him too much. For someone like me with health-related anxiety, it's a great example. He's a doctor, and manages the care of his 85 year old mother in an advanced stage of Parkinson's, where there are no good options anymore. Perhaps knowing the range of possibilities as a trained medical professional gives him a healthier perspective.

[b]Stay strong, OP. I don't have great methods to recommend, but what works best for me is self-talk: trying to reason myself out of panic. Also, magnesium/B6/B12 supplements.[/b]

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OP. Thank you. I know grass is greener and all, but a physician for a husband would be my dream scenario. My husband is also an optimist, but clueless and disinterested in all things medical- so it is cold comfort. Evenings are the worst. I try and listen to Michael Sealey’s guided meditation/Hypnosis on YouTube.[/quote]

PP you replied to. Ah, well, you wouldn't appreciate being married to my husband, then. He won't be interested in anything that's not a complex disease or life-threatening emergency. Anything that's mental, he will dismiss, believing willpower and self-control can take care of it. He's *very* old-school. I am the go-to person for treating all the routines illnesses, aches and pains in the house. I developed my anti-anxiety methods myself. [/quote]

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