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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What do you mean by spirited? Only asking because this seems very vague.  I had a DD I described as spirited when young, but reading some other posters, she doesn’t sound much like their idea of spirited.  [/quote]

It isn't a diagnosis.  It's a theory where kids "feel more."  They have big feelings and big behaviors.  I'm the PP whose child was actually depressed/suicidal/anxious.  His child psychologist told us to throw out the book "Raising Your Spirited Child".  In our case a serious diagnosis was being swept under the rug by his councilor - she was all about that book.

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Op here and this is where I struggle with it. The book makes so much sense to me. But I know that reactions to it range from "your kid is an a-hole" to "your kid needs meds".  I know we could shop around for a diagnosis or we can keep just trying to control what we can.ADHD or anxiety isn't a black and white diagnosis so I know we are in gray territory. I believe that meds can be life changing and wonderful for some and that some are medicated in an attempt to just control behavior. I feel like either choice for us is wrong. [/quote]

I'm one of the PP with a teen now doing really well - the chill 15 year old boy. He does have anxiety, and had a really challenging 5th grade year with a bad teacher and he had terrible insomnia. We got him into CBT and he learned a bunch of tools that have served him well. He hasn't needed any mental health treatment since, but we've talked a lot about how know he knows that mental health is just health, and when he needs it it can go back. I do think my son's tantrums and difficulties as a toddler and preschooler were probably anxiety. That is just how he is wired. Getting old enough to use your brain and behavior to control your emotions helps incredibly. Good luck, OP.[/quote]

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