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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How would you feel if you knew your BM was impregnated by a rapist?  My parents refused to allow me an abortion after I survived a brutal rape at knifepoint.  The child was given up for adoption and placed with Barker.  Thank god, I was over 18 at the time of birth because my idiot parents wanted to keep and raise her, but as I was of age, I said no.  Even after years of therapy, I am still angry and bitter that I had to bear this child; it ruined my life.  She was able to find and contact me and in a weak moment, I agreed to see her.  She kept saying, "You could have been a millionairess,"  and hinted about my ""owing her something for giving her up."  All she wanted was money.  If you met your biological parents, what would you want?  [/quote]

OP here. I'm very sorry to hear this story and hope that you are finding some peace.

I don't know how I would feel if we had been conceived through rape.  I imagine I would be angry yet grateful that she didn't have an abortion.  I don't want to go into specifics, because some of my friends and co-workers read DCUM, but my daughter was conceived through similar circumstances as you were.  I know one day we'll have to have a very difficult discussion with her and I'm sure I will seek counseling to help me get through that.

I don't want to meet my birth family for money.  They actually were really poor (remember, post-Korean War, the South was the desperately poor country, not at all like today's Koreas) and my bio mom was in bad health.  I just would want to say thank you and that she is in my thoughts and prayers. I know if I had placed a child for adoption, I would want to hear that they were given a wonderful life, and I have had that wonderful life and would want her to know.  I think sometimes when Korean adoptees find their birth families, the birth families are the ones who can want money from the adoptees.[/quote]

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