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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Our nanny used to take DD to a kiddie gym frequently but occasionally I would take her in Fridays when the nanny didn’t work.  One time another nanny came up to me, laughing, and told me how she thought nanny was the mother and told her how the babysitter (me) was ignoring DD when we came on Fridays.  I was mortified.  [/quote]

You shouldn't! A nanny taking a kid to a playground or kiddie gym is totally different than a parent doing it. The nanny is at work -- she's literally being paid to engage with the child. For a parent, playgrounds and kiddie gyms can be a break from the nonstop of being with a small child from dawn to sundown. Nannies get to show up at 9 and leave at 6. They get weekends off. It's more reasonable to expect them to actively play with a kid at a place like that, though even with a nanny I think it's okay to take a break and say "ok, now you can play on your own for a bit." But for a parent? That can be a break time.

My kid went through a phase where she would not play on her own at playgrounds, from about 2.5 until almost 4. So my DH or I would play with her pretty much the entire time during that period. She was really afraid of other kids, especially older kids, and it was the only way to get her to actually play. You know what we'd do the second we got home from the playground? Tell her it was time to play on her own for a bit and take a freaking break! Parents get breaks. You are not required to engage with your child 24/7.[/quote]

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