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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just let your husband with his "postpartum" depression do the sleep training. You put in earplugs and sleep, let him handle it since he doesn't appreciate the way you are doing it. I have nothing really nice to say regarding the husband. Nor am I a sleep training expert, because my kids co-slept and I never did successfully sleep train them (I did try, and couldn't stomach the screaming).

What is with husband's that can't make sacrifices for their babies. It's like they magically expect everything to just go back to pre-baby life. Then they make their wives feel bad that it doesn't. Ugh.[/quote]

Yup. If you were expecting your husband to get up and do all the night wakings that would be one thing. But for him to be this pissy because you are handling it and he wants more attention from you is just ridiculous. I have had a couple periods of running myself ragged to meet the kids needs (including one of my kids with SN who needs more help with virtually everything) and just barely keeping it together while also working and my husband has a tantrum about how I’m not supporting him enough. I have pushed back HARD every time and he gets it but the truth is I care more about meeting the kids needs than meeting my husbands preferences. And I always will. I get to be the judge of what I consider a need when it comes to my kids and I make no apologies about. Your husband doesn’t NEED you sleeping in the same bed as him. Maybe he’s whining maybe he needs a SSRI who knows but focus on your kid and try not to pretend male post partum  depression is a thing (signed a mom who had real post partum problems after her first pregnancy who got a lot of help to not repeat those issues with subsequent pregnancies)[/quote]

The issue is that there is no reason to be up with an 8 month old.  So it’s likely hard for the husband to have a lot of sympathy at this point.  I doubt he is even asking her to tend to the child during the night.  OP has made decisions that have resulted in the child not sleeping.  OP is being emotional about this as opposed to taking action for her kid to sleep.  The husband had probably thrown his hands up in the air and backed off.  [/quote]

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