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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You know, my husband made an observation about me when we were engaged that had never occurred to me.  "A lot of people think of you as their best friend."  I did not think of THEM as my best friend. And because of this, sometimes when we'd go visit our home city, feelings got hurt. I only had so much time for the trip, and didn't have enough time to visit one-on-one with everyone who wanted that kind of time with me.

Is this what's going on with your cousin?[/quote]

You sound really smug. When people think you’re their best friend - if that’s the case - maybe ask how you feed into that. It’s no different than the guy who makes women believe they’re “the one” while they date many women simultaneously. It says more about you than these poor people you brushed off.[/quote]

Nope, not smug at all. Just a very good listener, I remember every detail people tell me and can bring it up months later (Jason? The guy who shat his pants on the hot air balloon date?), and am very low drama. I know my strengths. I don't lead anyone on. I'm not one of those women who refer to everyone as "my best friend" when I'm with them. And I don't brush people off. But I have priorities - seeing relatives comes first, doing activities with our kids comes second, at least one date alone with DH is third, then friends. [/quote]

Your response to the suggestion you are smug is smug.
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