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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is not your siblings fault. You should have secured an attorney in the meantime, just in case, and you could have switched if your sibling pulled through. But, come on, you dropped the ball and twiddled your thumbs in the midst of your own emergency. [/quote]

Perhaps. And I regret not getting an attorney right away. I took my sinking at their word and was afraid to seek another attorney after sinking became angry with me for being impatient. I didn’t want them to be angry. Of course now I see the irony of that and regret it deeply. [/quote]

That's just now how these things works. It's not like a recommendation for a plumber. If you have a crisis you need to act fast, ask multiple people for referrals, do your own research, you have to look out for yourself as an adult. [/quote]

I hear you and I certainly regret not being more proactive. I was stunned by the crisis and was grateful for the help.  It taught me a lesson that I quite literally paid dearly for. And for me, I don't offer help unless I can follow through and/or communicate if I can't deliver the help I promised. With that, the fact that my sibling didn't simply come to me and say that attorney friend couldn't / wouldn't assist is a mystery. [/quote]

People are flaky. When someone says they can help, or "have a guy" more often than not they aren't going to follow through on that, even family. It's nice if they do, but I wouldn't sit back and wait for the help to come pouring in. If this was a serious legal issue you would probably want to go with a trusted name, someone successful in that area of expertise, not just some rando your sibling knows. Same for any serious medical issues. This situation called for more proaction, which obviously now you are aware. But, again, what exactly did you say or do after this didn't pan out the way you wanted? You must have seriously offended and insulted your sibling over something that was a crisis on your end, not theirs.[/quote]

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