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[quote=Anonymous]Mostly by learning how to bully and mean-girl the weaker, shyer, slower to develop kids, such that all the other kids fear being like the weaker kids and work really hard to imitate the alpha bullies. I've watched it happen year after year with each new batch of little innocents.

Usually, it happens because the parent has drummed into the child's head the 'good' way to be and the 'bad' way to be, but left out every ounce of empathy for struggles along the way. Then, the child views the world through this lens, and so sees all other kids that way too, and shows no empathy for peers who are different or who make mistakes.

I had one 6th grader articulate it quite well after being bullied in grade school (immature development) and hoping things would be better in middle school: "I've changed so much, and grown up, but they don't see it. They don't see me anymore. They won't let me be who I am now." He was pegged as "uncool" by first grade and that was the end of him for the so-called cool kids. [and to 8:54, this kid was good looking, smart, an athlete, and from a wealthy family, so no -- its mostly about the wolf pack culling the herd ruthlessly at a very early age].[/quote]

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