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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I've seen lots of big dual careers make it work but I think the trick is never doing an alternative so neither can get into the one-sided habit.  I think it'd be very very tough to dig yourself out now.  I'm sorry. [/quote]

If I go back to work, I think I would earn $100-200k. Dh earns $2m+. In order to earn that much, he is always on. I feel his focus is on work even when he is home. It is unlikely he would step up more if I went back to work. [/quote]

My unpopular opinion is that if he is bringing in that much, then he should not be expected to do many household chores. It really doesn't make sense from a cost benefit perspective. Would you prefer he take a less demanding job and earn less? His time at home should be spent on quality time with you and the kids. It is good that he will help with dinner and trash so kids see that.

And stop caring so much what your friends think. No one else knows what is best for your family other than you. Why do you want to go back to work? [/quote]

Doing everything OP does is, I guarantee you, more stressful than what her husband does, and perhaps more depressing. There are in fact studies about this. It’s not just about time spent on the contribution you make to the partnership. And actually, even if it was, I wouldn’t be surprised in the least if OP worked more hours than her husband.

I’m in a similar situation to OP and my husband sees when I’m overwhelmed and stressed and so he has taken responsibility for a lot of things, like dinner and dishes twice a week, taking the kids on outings on weekends (including planning and logistics), making the kids do their laundry, and cleaning sheets and towels.

I will say that I think OP might have an issue where she insists on things being done her way, and has taken total ownership for everything, so it’s awkward for her husband to do things. If you feel micromanaged, you’re going to be much less likely to take ownership of something. [/quote]

Be to those studies. Puttering around the house while the kids are at preschool, grocery shopping, lunching with other SAHM, and some carpools is hardly worse than 7 figure jobs demands.

You never have to worry about money. You have ample leisure time, and can hire a sitter at a moments notice. Depressed? That’s a you problem. [/quote]

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