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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Most people think that smaller age gap is harder/worse for the first few years and that it’s easier later on when kids play together, go to same school, have same friends/activities/schedules, etc.

I have both a 2-year age gap and a 3.5-year age gap. While the baby years were easier the second time around (even though I already had 2 older kids), now that kids are 8, 6 and 3, it would have been much easier had they been 8, 6 and 4.[/quote].

Can you say more about how it would be easier if it were all 2 years apart now? I see this said a lot but few people give concrete examples beyond same school, same friends etc. [/quote]

NP but closer the age gap more likely that they’ll have overlap in lots of areas: same school, same friends, same activities, same interests, same sleep schedules. Once your youngest is out of the toddler stage, you can really do a lot more—outings, vacations, everyone watching a movie together or playing a board game together, etc—as a family. The bigger the age gap, the less likely they will be to match up like that. It makes family life a lot easier in my opinion to have kids who can do more together and move through the various stages of childhood more in sync with each other.

Of course it’s also possible to have a larger gap and still have that closeness/overlap and also possible to have a small age gap and NOT have them match up as well as how they interact is largely based on their personalities. But in my experience w my own kids and other families I know, the closer in age kids do typically have more in common and it is easier for the families once kids get older. The younger years are definitely hard w small age gaps between kids, though.[/quote]

Another NP and this matches my experience.   There is only so much a 2 yo and a 9 yo want to/can do together - they would prefer different museums/parks/outings/shows, etc.[/quote]

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