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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Thank you for the responses.
One mom I was talking to was just gushing about her middle daughter, she's her "whole heart", loves hanging out with her and is "legitimately her best friend". I get the closeness of some mother/daughter pairs but to go to the extent of saying her 16 year old is her for real best friend, seems.... one step too far into being weirdly codependent.

I feel sad that that my daughter wants nothing to do with me outside of doing parenting things for her. We are totally different personalities and it makes hanging out with each other difficult. We approach enjoyment of things very differently and she likes to jump on me for any slight infraction of her "rules" and will hold a grudge about it forever. Even though my son and I butted heads in the typical ways, I knew he still loved/liked me. Daughter....not sure she would put me out if I was on fire most days. [/quote]

OP - I’m in my 40s and my mom and I are very close but not best friends. We were not close until I had kids. As a teen I barely tolerated her and in my 20s I cut her off because of her poor boundaries (always complaining about my dad to me). Don’t give up, just don’t smother her and continue to be a parent - not a friend. Your daughter is establishing her own personality and that involves creating some distance from you. That is healthy.[/quote]

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