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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Another perspective here.  I'm sure this must be hard for your daughter, but it's also a chance for her to gain some resilience.  Camps, playgrounds, and other activities outside of school will have situations like this with disruptive kids, and it would be good for her to learn to tolerate it.  Caveat - if this kid is hurting her in some way, that's obviously unacceptable, and needs to stop and be addressed.  But it sounds like that's not the issue here.

Two strategies:  one, you can reassure your daughter that she can do hard things, like tolerate this kind of disruption; and  two, a little empathy.  You can give her the perspective that while she experiences this as a periodic disruption to her classroom, this kid is living with a disruption inside of him or her all the time, and he or she is struggling.  You can tell her that she is lucky that her mind and body is peaceful most of the time, because his or hers clearly is not.

Just my 2 cents on the situation, and I agree that it will help get this kid what he or she needs if you 1) talk to the teacher and 2) talk to the administration.[/quote]

I think that it's important to message this to a child. We can't always have ideal conditions and we still need to get the job done.

[b]BUT,[/b] kids have a very narrow time window to learn certain things, or at least learn them well. Things not learned this year (because of whatever reason) makes it that much harder to stay on track going forward and problems can easily compound. So if the situation with the problem child is, in fact, preventing other children from accessing learning that would otherwise take place, that's just damage done and there is no silver lining of "lessons learned" that can compensate for that. Perhaps outside enrichment and tutoring can, but there is no "gritting" out of this situation.

The sad reality is that it's much easier (incentive structure-wise) for school administration to allow one child to ruin the educational experience for 20 other children than it is to do right by those other kids by removing the child until his/her issues are addressed.  And in many situations, many of those other kids are at-risk themselves, and [i]really[/i] cannot afford to have a single school day squandered by foolishness. But, alas, those who can least afford to suffer must suffer some more in the name of "equity" or whatever.[/quote]

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