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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh this is so hard. I was very very close to my DD and had a really hard time when I found out she was bulimic and even though I had heard her purging with my own ears, she refused to admit it, flat out lying to me. She has also done the same with vaping. I have found evidence several times but she swears she does not. I’m not stupid I believe my eyes and ears but oh it was so hard to know that she’d just lie to my face about something so important.

Unfortunately while I love her unconditionally, I know she lies to me and that hurts. I’ve always told her she could tell me anything, no judgement but clearly she does not.[/quote]

Yes, I am mostly upset and sad about the continuous  lying.[/quote]

It seems you are taking the lying as a sign that she doesn’t love you or doesn’t trust you? Or both? But neither are true.

I do hope that my own 17 yr old will come to me when there is something she is dealing with but I can also recognize she is her own person and she gets to  not share every single aspect of her every day life. I expect at some she is going to try alcohol and possibly pot or something else. I have stressed why it’s not a good idea, never get in a car and all those things. And since she will be 18 in the fall I have started mentioning that getting caught when she is with her  friends will be different for her as a legal adult vs some of her friends. I also know bc we are close that she would be upset and embarrassed to have to admit these to me. No one wants to admit their mistakes to people they love and then feel and see their hurt. It’s human nature not a flaw in parenting.[/quote]

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