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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m really sorry OP.  DC is one tough town.  I lived there from the ages of 23-33.  That was more than enough.  While there are some nice people, most are stressed, over-extended themselves, burning the candle at both ends, etc.  And these are the nice people.  DC (because of the power and influence) also [b]attracts an inordinate amont of psychopaths who have next to zero empathy, see competition in everything and fully embrace the zero sum game of winning at all costs[/b].

If you’ve given the area ten years (as I did) and you have no community, I would seriously consider leaving is at all possible.  Otherwise I would just accept that this is the way life will be for you.  Maybe this is the wake-up call you need.[/quote]

This is true. And even though the true psychos are relatively few, their ethos rubs off on others who, in a place with more community-minded people, would likely follow the pack to bring kinder and more supportive.

I still live in DC but learned after a crisis 5 years ago that I will never be able to lean on my support network here for that kind of help. Finding a job, organizing an event, starting a business? People will show up for that because it Carrie’s status in this town and it’s the kind of help they also hope to obtain. But personal care work? People here don’t respect it and don’t do it unless they have to. They hire nannies and house cleaners and get groceries delivered and do take out, and they assume others can afford to do the same (people here are very ignorant about what it is to have limited funds for things like this, I think because so many have family support to help with that).

The black communities in DC are different but among the white peoples I know here (I am white) the expectation is that you will sort out your personal issues yourself.[/quote]

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