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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think our DD was 9 for her first sleepover, but she does have anxiety which 100% played a role. Now she's good at 2 friends homes. If there was a new one where she hasn't been to the house before that would probably be a rough one. Every kid is different. I was sleeping over at friends homes when I was 5, but I've always been a very independent, self sufficient person.[/quote]

OP here. She's a little anxious too. She's never been to their house even for a regular playdate.

I'm kind of thinking about having her go for the party and then picking her up? I don't know... that would probably make it worse/weirder?[/quote]

I don't think this is weird at all.  Say she isn't comfortable doing sleepovers yet and pick her up at a certain time.

I guarantee you with kids that age there will be some middle of the night calls/pick ups.  The host is nuts.  No thanks.[/quote]

Op here.. right?! I would not want to host this at all as a parent. My DD actually has done one sleepover party at just turned 6, but it was for her cousin's birthday so I was ok with it because it's family. But I was just shocked at how many of my niece's friends' parents were ok with a sleepover at 5 and 6.
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I'm the parent of the anxious kid. What we did for that first one (and one before that wasn't successful) was to send her with everything she needed to sleepover, but if she didn't want to that was fine and we picked her up. We also let her know it was 100% fine for her to call at any point for us to pick her up. The unsuccessful time was around 1am. She felt better going knowing she had an out if she needed it.[/quote]

You basically set her up for failure. Of course she should know o that for any kind of playdate, day or night she can always call home, but you sent the message that she wasn't ready to make it through the night. Better to go in planning to stay or have a planned pickup time. At that young age doing a 9 or 10 pm pickup is best IMHO. And definitely never at a family you don't know really well. Even when you do know the family, weird things can happen at night.[/quote]

NP but do you even have a child with anxiety? Because you are way off here. My child would be so upset and embarrassed if I told her that I did not trust that she could make it through the night and was going to pick her up at 9pm while everyone else was staying over. On the other hand, she would be immensely grateful knowing that she had a safety blanket and could call me if she needed to - and she wouldn't necessarily do it, but it is helpful for her to know that she always has the option to leave whenever she stops feeling comfortable somewhere.[/quote]

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