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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Tread carefully.  Give her space to come to her own conclusions about him. [/quote]

This was my thought too. She’s a grown woman, and you are choosing to give her the money. Now you are attaching strings to it and trying to control her via your money.
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Agree with both PPs.  You shouldn’t be providing this amount of support if you are going to attach strings.  The only way to attach strings to money is if you do it from the very beginning (ie “we will pay your rent, but expect you to pay us back later” or something along those lines).  I think you have to let her work this out if you’re expenses haven’t gone up.  If the expenses have increased, that’s a different story.

How is your daughter learning anything about finances?  We don’t have enough info in the post to know your full arrangement (which is understandable), but I think you should think about the answer to that question and whether the help you are providing in the short-term will be helpful to her in the long-term.  For example, you may be empowering her to let this dude live there for free because she doesn’t see any financial cost to the situation.  Or you may be taking away her opportunity to learn about budgeting and managing her household.  These things are important.

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