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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was already divorced when this happened.

I did not have an AP. I don’t know if my ex spouse did and I don’t care. I realized I could not stay in a marriage where my spouse would never, ever see me as an equal and continued to put me down year after year. No matter what I achieved, I could not make them happy. [b]I was desperate to be loved [/b]and after the divorce [b]I did get involved with someone who ultimately could not commit. I lost myself in the process.[/b]

There were other factors at play: the pandemic, schools being closed, changes in my job, and needing space from my ex and not wanting to stay in the house with so many unhappy memories.

Obviously the biggest mistake ever was marrying them in the first place, but I got my kids from that so I don’t think it was all a mistake.

[b]I don’t ever want to lose myself like that again. [/b]I’m gonna ignore you haters. I came here in hopes that someone would share their experiences of moving on.

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OP, I think this is what you are reacting to.  You had a terrible marriage and husband, but you held out the hope that you could find love the next time around.  Being in an abusive long term relationship probably made you ripe for attention from the wrong kind of person, who took some advantage of you.  Those people are a dime a dozen. Don’t let one (or two) guys dash your hope. There are good people in the world - for dating, friendship. Now you simply know better what works for you and what doesn’t.  The best way to find yourself is not through another person by the way. The most joy is found in being with people (kids, parents, friends) while being free to be yourself.  
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