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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your story doesn't make much sense.  How is it that you were divorced last year in the home country rather than this country?  Did you just move here in the last year or something?

Depending on how much your private school is you might actually come out ahead with that arrangement vs. monthly CS payments and then you can just file for CS if he stops paying.  I wouldn't assume that your order will include him paying for private school nor would I assume that he will be ordered to maintain life insurance for the benefit of the child.

What state are you in now?[/quote]

OP here, yes, married in his home country right out of college (2004), since then we lived/worked as expats with just one year in DC. We separated more or less four years ago with no formal agreement (me with the kids in one country, him in another) and he sent me the divorce papers from his home country when I got back to the US at the end of 2020.

I'm living in Florida now and am filing a petition for custody and CS here (and private school is cheap). Last year, after months of our informal "agreement" he insisted on visiting with the kids when I asked him not to. This sparked my concern that he could do other things against my wishes, particularly take the children to his home country, which is why I am moving ahead with the petition. So the CS is more an outcome of all that- but the part ex DH is most focused on! [/quote]

Stop playing games.  File and be done with it.  You may not get private schools and extra's so negotiating an agreement may be better.  You should not demand your ex pay for private if it wasn't a mutual agreement.  He should be allowed to have the kids every summer in his home country and every holiday.[/quote]

OP here, I agree he shouldnt have to pay for private school if we didnt agree on it, and the need for it at certain grade levels is based on my housing choices, etc. The planned filing date is Friday and since my post ex DH did speak to my lawyer. It seems he accepts my proposed custody terms and is pushing back on the CS. Hopefully ex DH will realizee by their next call on Thursday that he is going to need to pay a fixed monthly amount. If not, I guess it is filed and a judge decides?

The issue of taking our children out of the country hasnt come up yet, but it is not going to happen (at least not until late teens if the children want it). I will give up my own right to travel out of the US with the kids if needed. Luckily, ex DH's family all lives in the US or I would feel conflicted. 
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