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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NP. You are the cake. You're very sure of what you want. That's good. Whether it will actually look like that remains to be seen, but that's for the future to decide. I wouldn't stop dating, but I'd say that if you're sure about raising/having kids and have the community and resources to do so, do it. Whether that's fostering, IVF, etc. The odds of meeting a guy for whom your well-thought out plans work is low; not meeting the guy per se, but having him fit into this plan. So do your thing. If you're happy and thriving, relationships are more likely to come. And if they don't? You're living the life you want.

- A single mom by choice who met DH years later[/quote]

Thank you for sharing your story, and for the encouraging words! I guess I very much do want someone to fit into this mold of a family I want. I know those chances are slim though, especially since I’d like to outright “screen” for guys who either know for certain they’d like to foster/adopt, or would give it some earnest thought. I also feel like I’m on a timeline given my age and stage of life, and would like to start on my family aspiration within the next 2 years or so.

I’ll continue to date in earnest, and be open and honest about what I want family-wise. If something comes of it, awesome! If not, and I have time to meet or date guys as I move through life as I start a family, and foster/adopt, equally awesome.

Thanks again for the advice! 🥰[/quote]

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