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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Fostering teenagers is a huge challenge and something you will likely find extremely challenging if you have younger, biological children in the home. Also, there are sometimes safety concerns with that age difference. I am not blaming the foster children specifically for their difficult upbringings, but it can create issues.

Also, I have a friend who wanted to be a single mom and adopted a the  10-year old boy from foster care. She has a reliable income and supportive family. The one child nearly broke her, but everything is as ok as it can be now ten years later.

As far as a relationship goes, if you meet "the one" you won't have any hangups. Just don't force yourself into a relationship because you sense it is a convenient time or a means to an end.

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Thank you for sharing your friends experience! I do understand that there will be some concerns with younger children in the along with one or more foster teenagers. I can only think about best and worst case scenarios at this time, and how I might resolve them, but thought exercises certainly won’t prepare me for the reality of it.

I still haven’t sorted out if I want to start off with fostering a teenager or two, and seeing how it goes before bringing an infant into the mix, or if I should start off with having my biological children first and then, at some point in time, fostering. There will be different challenges to both, but I’m sort of leaning towards the former because I want to start helping children and teenagers in the system ASAP. However, I don’t want to rush it. I want to be in the best condition possible to take on these varied challenges. I know it will be a learning process as one goes along, and not all issues may be readily available when a child comes into a foster home - new or different issues may come to light with time, and those will have to be addressed. But I think my base nature is capable of handling this uncertainty and high potential for changing difficulties. I will also research and seek out resources to help myself and the child(ren) I foster address these challenges in appropriate ways.

I still have time to sort things out, and the information and advice I’ve received from you and others is helpful in piecing this all together. Thanks again! 😄[/quote]

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