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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Neither.  Keep looking. Don’t settle. [/quote]

If she wants someone who can bring her peace and she admittedly likes him, how is she settling?[/quote]

She already says guy #1 is boring and isn't interested in being his kids stepmom. Yikes. That doesn't sound like someone in love.[/quote]

I didn’t say he was boring. I said I can see myself getting bored with him sometimes but it could remedy that by nudging him to do some exciting things. Also, I never said I didn’t want to be her stepmom. I said I would never date a man with a child but I clearly liked him enough when we met to let that rule go. I did however say I was scare of being a stepmom because I’m not a parent myself and I’m afraid I’ll screw up. [/quote]

If #2 is so great and you're in love with him.... why would you even contemplate #1? You know the drill already.[/quote]

You can love two people at the same time. I’ve been there before. It’s a head versus heart thing.[/quote]

I disagree on the head vs heart thing. OP broke up with #1 because they were a bad fit and he’s not good to her. #2 sounds like a great guy (although - OP if you haven’t met the daughter proceed with caution). I’m a mom, my husband is a step-dad, and it hasn’t been easy but he’s amazing with my kid and puts in a lot of effort.

The first guy has red flags all over him. I think OP should go to therapy to work this out. [/quote]

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