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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I would be lying if I said weight wasn’t a factor, but the bigger issue is her mental health. She goes on these diets to lose the weight, feels good, and then goes back to gaining weight. Her eating habits are not terribly bad but I she has started to eat a lot of junk food. I cook most our food and we stick to mostly health meals with the once a week takeout. We have eaten like this for years and I don’t think it’s the issue.

I think her late night snacking and her new addiction to pop is the issue. She has been eating late night snacks of popcorn, sweets like candy and ice cream, and started going through a case of pop every week. She said the weight gain gave her heartburn and she needed the carbonation for it, but I think that further contributes to her heartburn and it’s an endless cycle. I bought carbonated water but she hates it and goes back to the pop.

I worry that her constant weight gain, dieting, and losing weight is taking a toll on her. She used to be very energetic and fun and now she never wants to do anything. She complains all of the time that her clothes don’t fit or how she has gained the weight back. I think she needs to see a therapist or maybe connect with a nutritionist who can help her come up with a plan to lose the weight and stop dieting. [/quote]

Here are things that I would have found helpful:
1. An offer that if I want to exercise you'll take care of the kids, laundry, pets, etc. Making sure there was time available, without guilt, and with my partners enthusiasm. 
2. Offering to do do all the grocery shopping and meal planning, even for just 2 weeks.
3. Nice dinner out to a restaurant with primarily healthy choices, like sushi or something.
4. Gift certificate to a favorite store, for when I feel like I've earned it.
5. Getting healthy with me, not eating crap food around me, and exercising as well.

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OP here.

- She works out everyday after work. We don’t have any kids or pets. 
- She does the grocery shopping but I do the meal planning because I’m the main cook. I’m a better cook than her and it’s always been this way. 
- I have tried taking her out but she makes excuses of says she doesn’t look good and doesn’t want to go out.
- I’ve tried getting her to go do things with me or friends. We are both introverts.
- I don’t eat any of the stuff she eats. She will snack and I may have a protein bar on occasion but I don’t eat after dinner most nights of the week.

I have tried to talk her into going to bed early, sex, getting out of the house, etc., but nothing works. Every night she eats a ton of junk food while we watch tv or stays up after I go to bed and binges. It’s unhealthy and it’s concerning. She never used to do it. [/quote]

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