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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If your AP was mean to you at the end and broke up with you did it sour you on the whole affair?  Do you regret the entire thing and years wasted? We had a multi-year thing, but at the end he said horrible things to me and about me and cut off ties.  I’m married too if it matters. Did you get back out there or plan to divorce or just resigned to your marriage and no more?  [/quote]

Didn’t say anything horrible. Had a major health issue and come to Jesus moment and tried to cut loose gently but I was overwhelmed and wound up ghosting. Didn’t intend to but there was so much to say and he would not call. It was devastating.
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Your health issue or his? You broke it off or him?  [/quote]

it off or him?  [/quote]

His issue. My overwhelm. We had been no contact (my doing) for years during which I (unknown to him) got divorced partly bc of my continued feelings for him. He reached out to tell me he was seriously ill. Then while he was hospitalized and I could not contact him, I myself had a cancer scare. He did not know and still does not know since I chose not to tell him while he was dealing with a more serious threat. I faced how alone I was in that situation, while he was surrounded by family. When he recovered he contacted me again with a very vulnerable message about feeling like he had been punished for transgressing but the message itself was not final and left a toe in the door. I could not take it. I loved him and could not take it anymore. I was also angry at him for consuming my life while his continued. But he was still recovering so I did not let loose on him; also felt / deeply experienced that he was someone else’s husband and there was no place for that relationship between us. It was deeply embarrassing although he had always made me feel valued, was responsive and accountable, and never once said a cruel word. I will never get over it. I have never loved anyone like that before or since.
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His poor wife.[/quote]

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