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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't think it makes you a gold digger, but you should realize salary is not a set thing. That 90k could decrease if he decides he needs to take another job or field.

Which brings me to you need to consider his overall attitude towards money and finances. Does he have tons of debt? Lots of wasteful spending?

What's his work ethic? Is he ambitious and motivated or is he the type discussed on this forum who will quit his job or be fired and chronically unemployed?

What are his future goals.

As pp said don't throw out an overall good guy and good match because he maybe makes only 70 k.

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This is the truth.

I am late 30s now, been married over 10 years. I got married young for this area and my spouse made a lot at the time. Huge earning went away and DH is now at a job he enjoys in the public sector.

Lots of things happened in life where you want a GOOD loving spouse and I am thankful I didn't end up with some of the guys I'd dated, who wouldn't have been a good spouse during hard times which come for many in life though no one expects it.

You want someone with similar values, who you get along with, who worships the ground you walk on.

I know women still dating, my age approaching 40, because they are pursuing high earners or some criteria list. Men who fit that specific criteria list may be a hot commodity short on supply and high in demand, and may often use that status to "play the field" or have their own criteria list for women to settle down with.

That is for you as a single women to decide how to proceed, but I mention this because with a "criteria list" with stringent income requirements, I have seen women end up alone, or unhappy, etc. I got a man with very high income, and very high income potential went away (and is all good, make a good income at a public sector job he enjoys), so I tell you also, that can happen too.

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