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[quote=Anonymous]This is from the perspective of many years down the road...my H's older brother is two years older. And the younger brother is 11 years younger.

The pros were that my H and BIL took care of younger BIL when he was a baby/toddler. Which meant when we had our baby, my H had more experience with babies than I did! Another pro is that my ILs made sure to encourage the relationship between the older brothers and younger one. Things like before cells and email, my H would always fly in for younger brother's birthday. He would call despite long-distance. And when MIL had a conference in our area, she'd bring younger BIL and he would stay with us for the weekend. To this day all brothers are close and communicate regularly.

The cons is that younger BIL can be very set in his ways, probably due to being an "only" child for much of his childhood and teenage years. There is also a certain dynamic that plays out between the brothers that always comes into play when all three are together (oldest BIL knows best, youngest BIL trying to prove something, my H trying to smooth things over). There's not much triangle stuff going on with them (meaning two brothers talk about the third brother etc) but I could see that happening in other situations...three can be a hard number sometimes, with someone always "left out."

Not sure if this helps, but my perspective of marrying into a family of three siblings with a big gap almost 30 years ago.[/quote]

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