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[b]Should I be happy that now his symptoms are so obvious that now they're shutting up?
Not really[/b], I'm just waiting for someone in the family to say "if you had done such and such when he was younger, he wouldn't be this way". Strangle. I. Have. Done. Everything. 
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I can totally relate to this sentiment.  Initially, my ILs (!) especially were very rude and judgmental about our decision even to have DS evaluated let alone (gasp) start ST.  They thought we were going to do life-long harm by making him feel different.  I heard all the typical excuses--he's a boy, he'll talk later; Einstein didn't talk until he was whatever age; he'll talk when he's ready; this is just his personality, etc.  While DS has thankfully made lovely progress and I am grateful, fast forward a few years and there's no denying that he has "issues".  Of course, never have my ILs ever acknowledged the huge sacrifices of TLC, time, money and stress we have put ourselves through to intervene aggressively.  They don't help in any way, not even with moral support.[/quote]

Same exact story here. I will never regret the choices I have made in my life (including leaving a career I loved), because I know what a difference it has made in my son's life. In my case, at least my husband truly gets it--it took a while but once he did he really got it--but at times it can still be hard to feel a lack understanding/compassion from those around us (first judgmental of my over-reactions/pathologizing and now judgmental of our parenting and child's behavior). I don't want anyone to call me a hero, I'd just like people to give us and especially my kid a break: if you knew how great his challenges are, you'd realize how hard he tries, how hard we all try, and maybe the behavior would look different to you.[/quote]

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