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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]True chemical fireworks and “Chasing Amy” type of romantic love is rare. It doesn’t last in that form but in even rarer cases it morphs into a lasting, deep, passionate, genuine love.[/quote]

I like this and it feels true in my experience.

Will also add that love and marriage are very different beasts. In love you want to see and be seen in your best light. Adore each other, make each other happy, be happy yourself. You can have this in marriage but marriage is mainly set up as a social institution to stabilize families for the purpose of raising kids and other kinds of kinship and caretaking. Marriage is a practical partnership oriented to external goals. It is also a relationship that often shows you the worst side of your partner and yourself. For a marriage to work you need practical compatibility and you both need to be able to subordinate your own happiness to a larger goal. You also need to be willing to put in the work to face your inner issues and grow together. If it gets to the point that there is a real mismatch in where you are, either in relation to external goals or internal work, then it’s possible to love or have loved the person but no longer be in a good marriage with them.[/quote]

This may be the best summary I have ever read. Who are you/what do you do.[/quote]

I’m a bartender on DCUM.[/quote]

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