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[quote=Anonymous]New poster, new perspective.

A lot of the “solutions” offered here didn’t really catch the OP’s question.

OP, my take is that your Mom is dealing with early-stage mortality denial. As in, she knows she’s gonna die – OK, that stinks – but first you’re gonna take away her independence. She can’t blame you for the first thing, but she sure can blame you for the second. (Meanwhile, you’re just trying to keep her and others safe.)

So I suggest you try to move the mental pieces around so that it’s not your Mom vs you, but rather you and your Mom vs the situation. She knows she can’t get insurance. She knows why too – just doesn’t want to face it. Sympathize – not because the situation’s unjust – but because it’s pretty traumatic for her. “I know Mom, that must be so frustrating.” Let her vent. Listen. See where you might help her save face.

I urge everybody to understand that “taking away the carkeys” is a terrifying rite of passage for some folks. Be tactful and kind. You’ll want the same when it’s your turn.
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