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[quote=Anonymous]OP here. So many honest responses. Thank you! A few of my thoughts:
- Home ownership: We literally have no desire to own a home. We both come from international backgrounds and much prefer the idea of being able to move/change as needed. In many ways I am a minimalist: we are creative and thrifty and don't own much. Like, a new toy in, one old toy is given away. Our neighbors are surprised we don't even have a storage unit, but we don't need it. I don't hang onto things that we don't use regularly or won't/haven't used in a year. Recycle ♻ items for fun art/craft/building activities. We do not need a large home. We prefer to save (we save about 20% of our income) and could eventually buy a home when we want to - that might be in 10 or 15 years. For now, we're renting with an amazing deal, with a great relationship with the owner, who has not raised rent in 5 years and apparently doesn't have the desire to have new tenants. Score. I have no feeling that we would need to own a home before having any certain number of children. I realize for many people, that's a prerequisite for marriage or 1st child. For us, it's just... Not.
- Time: We spend so much time with our 3 children. DH and I actually split our hours working so we can care for the baby ourselves. Once she's a year old we'll get a nanny share or something but we spend a lot of time with the kids because we plan around caring for them as our priority. Even with the older two, we spend a lot of time together. I have no guilt or issues with not providing time and love for each child.

Health: Other than not losing the baby weight (pandemic, recent Covid quarantine, etc., has definitely affected my willpower to eat right to lose weight!), I am really healthy, produce an abundance of milk, enjoy BFing... I love having a baby. I would love any baby we'd have, SN, twins, doesn't matter... I honestly would love any baby and those possibilities don't worry me. It's a chance with any baby.
- Why even consider having more children? Well... This is the hardest part to explain because it's obviously very rooted in emotion/biology and not necessarily logic/rational thought. The best explanation I can give is:
We are so happy with our children and I have been truly surprised to see the joy and happiness only multiply since our 3rd has joined us, especially now as she's social, interacting with her siblings, laughing, wanting their attention, oldest sibling babies her and helps, like feeding her (I'm right there), helping get her clothes, diapers, etc... Seeing the oldest child blossom in this role has been the most endearing thing. And seeing how the baby loves most when her siblings are loud, running around her, the baby just loves it and feels lonely when the room is quiet without them!
There's just so much joy.

Anyway. It's probably postpartum hormones making me think about this. As if, I need to make a decision now when obviously I do not.

Likely I'm going to prioritize my health next, hire a personal trainer, so I'm back in shape, and we can revisit this when baby's over 1 year old:)[/quote]

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