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[quote=Anonymous]My XH behaved a lot like OP on his way out of the marriage, and then immediately after the split. A lot of psychobabble about "caring for himself" and "putting himself first" all while his ES-aged kids sobbed themselves to sleep at night because they didn't understand what was happening. Years later, I think he still doesn't understand how much damage he did. Yes, he has a relationship with the kids now, and has convinced himself that everything that happened in the early days was in the past. But they are far less trusting of adults now. Their entire worldview shifted from "trusted adults love me and will be here for me" to "sometimes people just leave and you never know when it's going to happen." I hope OP can hear this - she is hurting her child(ren) and no matter how she feels about her marriage, she's going to do permanent harm to them and to her relationship with them if she stays on this track. [/quote]
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