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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My Indian-American neighbor’s daughter just got married to someone her parents found through an Indian matchmaker. She is good looking, has a good personality, really charming young woman, doing her medical residency. She dated several boys but didn’t really like anyone enough to go into a relationship. Her parents were getting anxious due to cultural norms of getting married before 30. They contacted some match makers and eventually found a good match. He is finishing up last year of medical school in NJ and has a residency slot secured here in Virginia. Their daughter met him few times in person and chatted over zoom and phone as well. They liked each other and agreed to marry.

It feels strange to me as they don’t really know each other but her parents are quite confident it has as much chance of working out as a love marriage. They didn’t even meet each other before wedding. Only saw pictures but it all worked out for them. I wonder if this traditional set up is still common and if it still works. All of my children’s Indian-American friends who were born and raised here in US are finding their partners in standard American ways and wouldn’t even consider any parental involvement, let alone matchmaking so this arrangement is not something we ever saw up close. I was wondering if this can be an option for non-Indians who aren’t finding love around them or on dating sites.[/quote]

I come from a community where this is pretty widely practiced too, although with a longer courtship phase.  It's a perfectly valid way to find a partner because:

- parents have identified a match of equal background, education level and in-law family
 - similar culture and expectations as to how things ought to be done
 - strong family support for the match
 - commitment to making it work from day 1, and no need to wonder if "he's into me" or "will call back"

I mean there are other ways to meet a spouse of course.  But don't see anything wrong with the above.  Our nephew found a wife this way and they are quite happy together 8 years later.[/quote]

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